Discipline that’s effective in discipleship will flow from a parent’s heart of humility, forgiveness, wisdom, love and vision for a child’s life. It must make sense to the child to win his or her respect. We can know that discipline has connected with our child’s heart when he or she is developing a desire to know and love Jesus and to walk in the grace of obedience.
A desire to connect to our child’s heart is what will last for eternity. I loved this book for many reasons and the main that it was not a do this and this will happen but it was based on opportunities to connect with your child when we need it most. Most of our discipline is out of frustration or we say to our children do as I say because I say it is not effective discipline and it does not grow a relationship. If you desire to grow your relationship with your children thru discipline, you will learn more about yourself and what makes your child tic. What stirs their heart and what crushes their heart.
The book is based on 4 connections with four messages.
Foundation that says you are safe with me.
Connect that you says you are loved no matter what.
Coach that says you are called and capable.
Correct that says you are responsible for your actions.
With each of these connections you are building a relationship. Isn’t that what discipleship is about? I am more convinced that our calling as parents should be to our children. How can we effectively change the world for Christ when our children are lacking the very thing of discipleship.
The book is full of scenarios and what we do wrong and what we can do right. Again, this is based on opportunity for change. A change of heart for the parent and for the child. An opportunity for a do over and how we become responsible. I also was encouraged that it was not about entitlement but about sacrifice. To teach to our children what sacrifice looks like and how we can love thru the act of sacrifice. It is also about transparency as a parent. When we mess up, the gospel allows us to honest with our children. It also gives our children the opportunity to be honest with us. This is so important for the difficult times and will avoid children hiding from us.
This is not only a book for parents and or grandparents but anyone who desires to build relationships with the gospel. How many times do we act as children in our sin and wanting our own way. Highly recommend.
A Special Thank You to Bethany House Publishers and Netgalley for the ARC and the opportunity to post an honest review.