Neither of us has ever crossed into a combat zone, but there have been casualties, and ours is most definitely a war. Some things are worth fighting for.
Marriage can be and is hard. No doubt about it. A memoir of Rachel Starnes’ life as a wife to Navy Top Gun, she writes with vulnerability, clarity, with a soul searching about her pain of the fight to stay connected to her husband. She writes about her past which is significant to how she deals with her marriage to the Navy. Rachel always questioned her mother choices but finds herself making the same ones in her own marriage. Again, marriage is not easy. Growing up, her father had a job that required him away for long periods of time. Her feelings of abandonment and fighting to matter was a struggle and it became a struggle in her marriage.
The pressures of a wife of a Navy officer is built on many things, such as time management, long periods of time without your spouses support and availability and then when he does come back home. The readjustment of making him part of the routine. You have two routines. One without your husband and one with her husband. Throw kids in the mix, double or triple the anxiety. She also expresses her fight for friendship and connection. The feelings of loneliness when the future is uncertain.
If you are a wife of the armed forces or know someone who is, this is a great read to relate to those that we love that often times are fighting a war at home.
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