Every marriage is rife with impossibilities. But in those times, we can experience the wonder of repentance, restoration, and renewal as we risk building doorways to the hidden corners of our souls. Married couples who love genuinely, willingly, and persistently come to see their beloved in a wholly different way.
Barbara Rainey and her husband are well known with their books on marriage. I have never read any. I do have them on my shelf at home and after reading this, I will make more of an effort to read them. This book on marriage is different. It is written as a letter to her daughters. My mother and I never had a problem with speaking with each other on difficult things but my own daughters are more reserved when it comes to personal issues. This book would make a great gift to your daughter if she becomes engaged to maybe open the door of discussion on what a Christian marriage looks like and the difficulties facing marriage in general. Rainey takes several of her pastimes such as gardening, painting, and dancing to express the contrasts that come with marriage. The good and the bad, the redeemed and the struggle. After reading how she compares marriage to a dance, I have a desire to take dance lessons just to work together the leading and following of how a well choreographed dance looks like.
Each chapter starts with a question from one of her married daughters and ends with wisdom on the things we need to remember to draw near to God and love our man. It is a conversation to see that we are not alone in our struggles and that it takes work that is never done.
Quotes that I found inspiring.
But when I focused on responding to my husband’s faltering steps and less on helping him lead, I found more joy in our experience and he improved more rapidly. And interestingly, when I centered my attention on following, he was more aware of his mistakes and apologized quickly when I wasn’t getting in his way and it was his mistake. Connection, our instructors taught us, was the key to success.
Give him the gift of respect for who he is today, knowing your gift will free him to become the leader God knows you need tomorrow.
When pornography is found on a computer or in a drawer, don’t accept an apology or a commitment to change. The problem is already a cancer. What at is required is accountability and wisdom. Accountability can come when enough men in his life know of the problem to be a force of goodness in prayer, direct interaction and confession. No one address this problem alone with success. Wisdom grows when the deeper roots of anger are seen in the struggle itself.
A great gift and a great reminder of the gift of marriage.
A Special Thank You to Bethany House and Netgalley for the ARC and the opportunity to post an honest review.