Showing up is not a new concept, but sometimes it feels that way. Something in our culture has told us to pull back, to protect ourselves from hurt, from people, from entering in with one another.
Depending on your personality type, this can be as easy as breathing or as difficult as pulling teeth. I am personally of the former. That being said, this book was very helpful to me because Jill Lynn Buteyn herself is the same way. However, because of Kara Tippetts engaging her in community, Jill has learned and embraces the lifestyle of showing up. If you are not familiar with Kara’s story, she just recently died of cancer but during her fight against cancer, she and her husband who is a pastor were gathered in community with their church in Colorado Springs. Along with the Tippetts and the community that has birthed from Kara’s suffering, there is something of beauty that will go on forever. The pain and suffering has been redeemed when there is a coming together.
Buteyn is the main contributor of each chapter and Kara offers a closing word filled with encouragement and strength. What you are witnessing is not a community but a purity of friendships that many of us long for. One of the strengths of this testimony of friendship is no matter what the pain; no pain is more painful than the next person’s battle. We all struggle with pain and dealing with pain.
Some deal with pain by isolating themselves or addictions but community is the better way but it is also the hard way. There is honesty within these pages that will grip your heart and long to be in the dance.
Quotes that I found inspiring were.
Fear is a lonely companion. Look what I would have missed had I let those whispers of doubts win. I would have been a lonely existence if I had hid myself away, worrying about saying or doing the wrong thing, or if I had held back because Kara and I didn’t have a friendship that spanned year.
Let’s give our people the room for this to be their story. We may have similarities in our stories, but this trial is unique to them. Saying something like “I know how you feel” or “I’ve been through something similar” makes it about us. Saying “I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine how hard this is for you” keeps the focus on them.
Curiosity is different from caring. Curiosity wants to know what’s going. Caring wants the person to know they’re not forgotten.
If you are involved in ministry of care, this would be a helpful resource and if you want to witness a community (friendships) that redeems the pain and suffering, you will long to be in the dance.
A Special Thank You to David C. Cook and Netgalley for the ARC and the opportunity to post an honest review.